Pick a reliable cue, specify a single behavior, and define a reward that lands. Before hitting send, pause for one deep breath, replace one adjective with a concrete fact, and then note one thing you did well. The breath steadies you, the edit sharpens clarity, and the self‑acknowledgment keeps motivation full. This loop respects limited attention while compounding small wins, creating visible improvement that encourages you to come back tomorrow and try again with curiosity.
Pick a reliable cue, specify a single behavior, and define a reward that lands. Before hitting send, pause for one deep breath, replace one adjective with a concrete fact, and then note one thing you did well. The breath steadies you, the edit sharpens clarity, and the self‑acknowledgment keeps motivation full. This loop respects limited attention while compounding small wins, creating visible improvement that encourages you to come back tomorrow and try again with curiosity.
Pick a reliable cue, specify a single behavior, and define a reward that lands. Before hitting send, pause for one deep breath, replace one adjective with a concrete fact, and then note one thing you did well. The breath steadies you, the edit sharpens clarity, and the self‑acknowledgment keeps motivation full. This loop respects limited attention while compounding small wins, creating visible improvement that encourages you to come back tomorrow and try again with curiosity.
Use Situation, Behavior, Impact in two sentences. “In today’s demo (situation), you skipped the error case (behavior). The client looked uncertain (impact). Could we slot a one‑minute test next time?” Tight framing leaves little to misinterpret and avoids character judgments. Practice this formula twice this week. The brevity invites quick acceptance and adjustment, while your tone stays collaborative. Over time, trust grows because feedback removes friction instead of adding drama, and everyone’s work reliably gets better.
Ask, “What outcome do you want?” and “Where do you feel stuck?” before offering suggestions. These questions reveal assumptions and respect autonomy. Then tailor the smallest possible next step. Elena used this approach with a new hire and watched ownership surge. Advice lands when listeners feel guided, not overridden. Try it in your next 1:1 and notice how solutions fit better, because they emerge from the person who will actually execute them in real conditions.
Celebrate process, not personality. “Your draft improved because you tested the outline with support first; that experiment worked.” Process‑based praise teaches repeatable patterns and avoids ego spikes that fade. Keep it short and timely, ideally within a day. Track one moment of targeted praise daily this week. You will see motivation stabilize without dependency, because people know exactly which behaviors matter and how to reproduce results under pressure, not just when inspiration happens to strike.